If you like or want someone..
…let them know. Leave no room for doubt or fear because that shit will tear the most self-loving and self-confident person apart. All the time they spent learning to love themselves will suddenly not matter. I don’t care if you’re a millennial that’s attached to their phone or someone that only goes and checks their notifications every few hours. If you’re telling someone you’re about them, you want to get to know them, or you like them, take the time you’re already taking to get on Twitter to respond and let them know you’re thinking of them. Nobody who’s trying to be with you wants to see you active on every form of social media but sit there wondering why you can’t text back for two days or ever. By doing so you’re just telling them they’re not worth ten seconds of your day. I don’t care if you’re official, just testing the waters, or dating around, they have feelings too. Call them before you go to bed no matter how tired you are because you live a busy life. You make time for the things you want in life, even if it means you stay up a little later or fall asleep on FaceTime. Don’t get mad when they blow up your phone, it’s not always for attention. Sometimes they just think or see something that reminds them of you. If they’re taking the time out of their lives to prioritize you, why’re you making them an option? They’re taking the risk to tell you how they feel about you, you can do the same. Even if you feel less for them than they do you, some part of you appreciates them and you should let them know. It has nothing to do with being needy or clingy and everything to do with actions speak louder than words. You can tell someone you want them all you want but the moment you start making excuses for why you couldn’t call them back or text them or acknowledge their presence, you begin laying down the foundation for their doubt and not being good enough. It’s a foundation that follows you around. Everyone wants to feel like they’re worth it. So if you don’t have good intentions, or you’re playing a game, please don’t be selfish. Let fucking go or step it the fuck up before someone else does and you lose what could be something great. And if you’re lucky enough to find someone who puts up with you giving them less than they deserve and they still try to ignore the doubt and lack of self worth that you provided for them with your actions, you’re lucky as fuck. Because that means they’re willing to put their self worth aside to provide for yours until you have enough love to share. So don’t get mad when your person does something stupid to find out if you actually want them if you’re giving them every reason to believe you don’t.
Forgiveness and new chances are real especially if they’re forgiving you for every day they silently let you make them feel less than.
So relationship or not, everyone deserves someone’s time of day. And remember just because they don’t vocalize your actions doesn’t mean that it’s not happening, growing up means self evaluations.
Sincerely someone who used to be selfish and has now seen the other side.
